BDSM Gear

A sex toy store with the stated values of being sex positive, body positive, eco-sexual (environmentally friendlier), socially aware, into community activism, local-first in their purchasing habits, and actively celebrating all sexualities, genders, and forms of gender expression? Fuck yeah! You won't find irresponsible crap like desensitizing anal lubes or toxic chemicals here. They have a long list of what they WON'T stock, and that includes things like: phthalates, amines, ceteareth-6, mineral oil, parabens, petrochemicals, petrolatum, popylene glycol, synthetic fragrances, sulfates, and ureas. So, what do they stock? This Portland, Oregon based store has a lot of the old favorites such Hitachi, Tantus, Lelo, and Oh Mi Bod. They also have some really stunning stuff like the Jackboot paddle from Icon Brands (which is a paddle that has the sole of a boot on the impact surface), leather ropes that look like vines of roses, artistic and fun crops (such as skull and crossbones), and gorgeous plugs and paddles made of glass and decorative crystals! You'll also find interesting stuff like vulva puppets, dramatic makeup kits, edible jawbreaker ball gags, cyborg fleshlights, and more! They are fairly good about listing measurements and materials, including the measurement of the "active" part of the toy (as well as the "passive"). The gender expression section made me very happy, as it used respectful language and offered a wide range of practical products like dilators, breast forms, and binders. The DVD section has everything from hardcore smut to sexual documentaries, and lists work from companies that I personally have a very high opinion of in general. It is easy to work your way through the products, and you can even select categories such as "Directed by Women". The events section has ticket sales to educational workshops, and at the time I visited that included a participatory class on kissing. The toy care section is a very thorough and accurate guide to how to care for different types of toys, and I'd give it a Vamp's pick for this part alone. The site also uses an icon system to help give fast information about toys. This info includes whether the toy is made in the USA, made in the Pacific Northwest, vegan friendly, submersible in water, a winner at the Feminist Porn Awards, and more! I loved this quick visual system! Shipping, returns, contact, and privacy info is all easy to locate and clear. Hours of operation are listed, and so is an estimate for response time on emails. I loved the fact that you will not be added to unsolicited email newsletters or anything here, which is an unfortunate rarity. This store is still building an inventory and a style, but I am loving what I see so far. The mission style of this place is beautiful, and would be a good guide for this industry as well as a pretty good template for a better world in general. Excellent new store with a bright future, go buy something from them! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2012-01-18
Cost: Free Advertising Content: None
Category Listings: Amateur / Indie Video / DVD, BDSM Gear, Mainstream Video/DVD, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies, Sexuality Info

If you are looking for adult toys, lingerie, books, jewelry, games, or holiday related items this is a great one stop shopping experience! There are all of the usual suspects like vibrators, dildos, and such. The descriptions here go the extra mile though (like books often listing page counts and actual physical dimensions). If you are looking for a sex doll, this store often has images of the dolls themselves (as fully inflated). Dallas Novelty goes beyond the basics and has items like cupping sets, electrostimulation toys, chastity devices, swings, enema equipment, and their own brand of equipment. They also stock a nice selection of breast forms, gaffs, padded panties, packer gear, and form bras. I liked the organization of the site, which helps guide you to the exact thing you are looking for rather swiftly. All of the policies are written out very clearly, and are easy to find. You should note the 30% restocking fee, email list add, and no cancellation on orders. Customer service info is also easy to locate and contact info includes toll free phone number, email, form, and mailing address. This site was up for an Xbiz Award in 2011, and they have an active Twitter account that offers special discounts to followers. They currently take orders from the US and Canada only. I was really overwhelmed by the huge variety and quality of the merchandise here, but I did have one pet peeve. They offer desensitizing agents that contain benzocaine, lidocaine, and menthol for anal play. I love the fact that this is one of the only shops that tells you what is in these desensitizing agents, that is a rarity and extremely responsible! I just wish that they didn't offer them in the first place, because these things are really a bad choice for anal play. Anal sex shouldn't hurt, and if you feel pain it is important that you are aware of it and stop to figure out what is wrong. Other than that small gripe (which may be more about what folks are willing to buy than about the store being willing to sell it), I am super impressed. Definitely recommended! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-12-20
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, Books / Zines, Fetish Wear, jewelry, Lingerie, Mainstream Video/DVD, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies, Shoes

Handmade, original, and good looking furniture designed for folks that have physical conditions that make sex a bit challenging! This UK artisan has swinging beds, love slopes (wedges), queening stools, leg slings, and more. There are also quite a few essays and jokes about getting older, facing physical challenges, and general goofing off. I became a bit nervous about the sexual stimulants section that discussed some illegal drugs, but they are not advocating that choice or presenting themselves as doctors. All of the policies are very clear here, and quite generous. The prices are listed, and are in Pound Sterling. The price includes shipping, taxes, and all other relevant costs (unless you go for an expedited shipping choice). There are several contact and payment choices, so there is sure to be some method that works for you. The company ships worldwide, and they appear to offer a lot of free extras (if you ask). A wonderful resource for folks that are mobility impaired and sexy as ever! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-12-20
Cost: Free Advertising Content: None
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies

This medical fetish web store is incredibly well done! The selection and apparent quality of the goods is wonderful, and includes all of the medical gear you'd expect (like straight jackets, nurse outfits, and institutional restraints). It also has quite a few goodies that take it right over the top (such as overnight sleeping cages, breathplay hoods, bondage chairs, electrical stimulation toys, ball weights, catheters, and retractors). If you are into latex, you'll find plenty of it here! Each product has a full description, including specs such as measurements. There is also expert advice on each product that gives you a bit of an idea of how or why you'd want to use it, and a great care and cleaning info section too. Customers can also write reviews and tag products, which is useful. The customer service, contact, shipping, returns, privacy, and warranty information is all very thorough and easy to find. This is exactly how to do a web store the right way. Well organized, stocked, and sexy as all get out! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-08-01
Cost: Free Advertising Content: None
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, Enemas / Watersports, Fetish Wear, Latex / PVC / Rubber, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies, Shoes

Are you looking for a really unique collar for a beloved submissive? Do you enjoy upscale jewelery pieces with an erotic twist? Gentle Medusa produces a range of made-to-measure fine art BDSM slave collars, cock rings, anal/vaginal beads, bangles, and other jewelry pieces and toys that might appeal to you. Sterling silver lockable collars aren't exactly new to the scene, so what is so different here? The artist can engrave them with bar codes, QR codes, and more. That is pretty nifty, but still isn't the most unique thing. The showstopper is that she can engrave someone's fingerprints into the work. Isn't that neat? She offers 100% silver roll beads with your lover's fingerprint that can be purchased separately and worn on a collar or ribbon. She also offers sterling silver "pebble" beads with varying finishes that can have fingerprints included. The cock rings you'll find here are pretty cool as well. Each ring is modeled off of British seaweed! So, the rings have a really unusual quality to them that is organic and one of a kind. I'm a little less enthused about the anal/vaginal beads that are real snowflake obsidian and natural rose quartz beads hand knotted on silk. I love the decadence and the beauty, but I'm a little worried about the cleanliness and safety of that one. You may want to do further research and become better informed about that before purchase. Contact info is limited to an email address, but that isn't unusual for fine artists. I would be certain to get all of her details before sending any money though. She likes to deal through Paypal, and it sounds like she offers frequent updates and contact while your piece is being created. Shipping and privacy info is clearly stated, and there is a really nice video about how to take clean prints for her to work with. As a side note, she mentions that her jewelry has a "haptomaphiliac twist". I had to look that one up. I believe she is referring to the Greek word "haptomai", which means to touch. I love the idea that her jewelry is meant to convey touch, and to be worn by folks that crave it. Beautiful, interesting, and a great idea! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-05-05
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, D / S, Fetish Wear, jewelry

Have you or your partner shown exceptional merit and skill in a recent kinky activity? If so, you might want to get one of these! Kinky merit badges are really cute 40mm iron on (or sewn on) awards for activities such as voyeurism, shibari, fisting, spanking, crossdressing, caning, and more. All prices on the site are in pounds sterling, and payment is made through Paypal. They ship internationally, and they supply a contact email address and encourage questions about their products. If you are worried about being able to find matching thread to sew on their badges, they sell that as well. A really cute and sexy idea (that I think will particularly appeal to the ageplay kids out there). Great fun! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-11-29
Cost: Free Advertising Content: None
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, Fetish Wear

Ali is sort of like a kinky consultant and personal shopper. She offers customized kits with themes like The "I Want To Give My Wife An Orgasm", "Weapons of Ass Destruction", "Chastity", "Feminization", and a lot more. Some of the themes are rather intriguing like "The Rape Survivor", "The Limited Mobility/Reduced Stamina", and "Prostate Cancer" boxes. In order to secure her services, you have to contact her and fill out one of her questionnaires that require you to (in my opinion) give out quite a bit of personal information, which allows her to tailor make the kit to your interests. Payment is through AlertPay, Green Dot Money Paks, or certificates for The Stockroom. I love the idea of this service, but I would have really appreciated seeing more examples of how a completed box might look within a given price range. The customer service, contact, privacy, and shipping info is also a bit vague. Given the highly personal nature of the business, I can imagine that it may be hard to be less vague. The fact still remains that in the initial email she is expecting age, occupation, email, or phone number as well as answers to an intimate questionnaire. The consumer has Ali's email and a PO Box. Some of the payment methods have the bonus of being anonymous, but they also have the downside of being hard to track in the unlikely event that a purchase doesn't go as planned. In addition to this, she links to her blog and a few other sites that she manages. There are also two interesting essays on "Finding a Kinky Partner" and "Girlfriends, Wives, and Strap Ons." I'm giving it a quality rating, with a large caveat emptor regarding the sharing of personal information and payment methods. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-11-13
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, Fetish Wear, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies, Uncategorizable

Mistress Penny has been offering her "Leather Bound" brand of custom and stock BDSM leather products since 1982. She started out with a small mail order and UK club business, and now she takes international orders. Each item offered has a small picture, and a very complete description. There is also a size chart for items (including information about how to take the measurements), so you don't have to guess at fit. Her current offerings include lots of leather bondage restraints, whips, spanking paddles, straps, tawses, canes, steel devices, chastity devices, stockings, and more. I think she particularly shines in the categories of canes, chastity devices, and leather goods. Some of her unique offerings include a Hannibal Lector style gag and a foreskin collar. Many of the items are crafted after you state specific measurements, and can be made a particular color or include other details of your choice (such as leather paddles with custom lettering). Shipping and privacy info is clear, but contact info is limited to a form. The site owner explains this has been done to limit contact with time wasters, but states that she will contact people by email very swiftly and encourages clients to ask questions about products. A great variety of payment options are available. In addition to the merchandise, Mistress Penny also shares a small amount of writing on the site. There is an article on caning that is particularly interesting. Easy to navigate, clear descriptions, and handmade products! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-10-15
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, Sexuality Info

If you've ever wanted to look dramatic and magical while having sex, it is hard to beat a toy that can make lightning spring from your tongue. Violet wands are a kind of electrostimulation toy that can give sensations from mild tingles to painful shock, and this store is one of the best sources for them that I've ever seen online. You don't know how to use one? No worries. This site actually has an extensive education section that explains just about everything you'll ever need to operate one in a safe, creative, and enjoyable manner. I was very impressed with the responsible and informative nature of the writing here. The customer service, contact, warranty, privacy, and other information were also clearly stated and easy to find. There are many more options for payment than I am used to finding on an adult toy store site, including a layaway plan. The products on the site include just about everything you'd ever need to play with these tools including full pre-built violet wand kits (from 7-40 pieces), rakes, combs, spirals, massaging electrodes, cautery/branding, probes, transport and storage options, and conductive toys. If you want to build your own kit, they guide you through that process as well. They accept orders from North America, Europe, Australia, and New Zealand. There are a lot of "extra mile" features to the customer service here, including 24/7 support and an amazing exchange program. There is even a better price policy, that helps to give you the best price there is on an item. I am extremely impressed! It has been a long time since I've felt like a kid reading through a Christmas catalogue, but this site gave me that feeling. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-10-13
Cost: Free Advertising Content: None
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Gear, Safer Sex Info, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies

ConfidentialComfort.com stocks a small but powerful selection of fucking devices. With various insertable toys, adjustable feet and some BDSM-friendly attachments, these can be customized for all your machine-sex needs. Site design is stuck in 1996; I'd strongly suggest that the webmaster invest some money in simple updates that would make this information much more accessible to today's internet audience. Additionally, the pictures shown don't do a good job of showing off features of the products. If you're asking folks for their money -- especially for something so intimate -- it behooves you to make your wares looks as shiny and desirable as possible. This includes multiple views, hi-res pictures, and something more than line drawings (!!!) for BDSM supplies. Prices are listed in Great British pounds. All items are pretty pricey, but having a robot do all the work for you isn't cheap, right? It's unclear if ConfidentialComfort.com ships outside of the UK, but at the moment shipping is free within the bounds of that nation. Paypal is accepted for payment, or you can print off the order form and send a check. Machines are guaranteed for a full year after purchase. ConfidentialComfort.com, your products look amazing. Now bring your site design and functionality up to the same standards. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2010-03-18
Cost: free Advertising Content: nil
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies

Enforced Obedience is an online fetish boutique for the BDSMers out there in need of paraphernalia. Considering the simple site design, I was very impressed with their range of stock: aside from the usual gags and cuffs, they carry more serious items like chastity devices, enema kits, and panic hooks, as well as some intense items that made me wince (like tawses and anal speculums). EO offers same day (on orders before 2pm) discrete shipping in the UK. Returns accepted on unopened merchandise. If you're having trouble stocking your dungeon, this little boutique might have just what you need. -Shay

Date Reviewed: 2009-12-03
Cost: free to browse Advertising Content: n/a
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies

KinkyBlue.co.uk calls itself a sex toy website with a heart, and judging by the selection of products I saw they seem to practice what they preach. The site prominently features lots of high-quality silicone products, large pictures and thorough product descriptions. The only thing that bothered me were the "Gay" and "Lesbian" sex toy categories. I consider it just a tiny bit presumptuous to divvy up toys that way. Spend enough cash with KinkyBlue and you'll earn a discount on future purchases. This program is called the "Loyalty Points Scheme," a vaguely nefarious name for an otherwise admirable program. In addition you'll find a gallery, forum and collection of saucy stories. Shipping, contact and returns information is clearly spelled out. Paypal is accepted for payment. Prices are listed in Great British pounds but shipping is available worldwide. Nice job, KinkyBlue, for creating a site that stands out from the rest of the sex-toy pack. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-11-19
Cost: free Advertising Content: moderate
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, International Sites, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies

ChurchOfSinvention.com is a Canada-based proprietor of kinky, beautiful leather items designed for excellent performance throughout years of BDSM adventures. All goods are shown in large, detailed shots and the descriptive text is funny as well as informative. Their products are just gorgeous; you must check out the Butterfly Jacket, the Ballet Splints and the incredible pony supplies. Their floggers look just amazing and strike fear into this (mostly) vanilla girl's heart. ChurchOfSinvention.com takes orders for custom work, so come up with your kinkiest ideas and see what they can do for you. Credit cards and PayPal are accepted; all prices are listed in Canadian dollars. Right now the site offers free shipping on larger orders and a flat-rate for smaller ones. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-25
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: BDSM Gear

Vamp first reviewed this site six years ago, and since then it's only gotten better. This has to be one of the coolest BDSM toy shops I've visited in awhile! Madame Giggles sells a huge assortment of floggers, stingers and her absolutely unique "Killer Bunnies." Instead of dull turn-key operations with purchased graphics and boring cookie-cutter toys, Madame Giggles creates all of her own products and images. Each toy has a precise description, including measurements and weights. The toys come with a warranty, and all customer service information is spelled out in detail. In fact, Madame Giggles manages to make you WANT to read all that info because she is funny and smart -- and it shows. Custom work is available. Shipping is currently through USPS Priority mail. Rates seem quite reasonable; spend over $100 and shipping is free. Aside from the toys, there is a personal side to this website. Madame Giggles talks a bit about herself, how to brand skin, and her thoughts on dating and relationship. It is very well worth the read. I found myself wanting to hang out with Madame Giggles after reading this. Other sex toy retailers need to take lessons from Madame Giggles on how to make their sites personally appealing. --Vamp and aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-16
Cost: free Advertising Content: none
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant

Second Sexe is a French language site (thankfully Jane does have a reviewer who speaks French) aimed mainly at women. The site is divided into four sections: La Médiathèque (media library), Le Magasin (store), Le Magazine (magazine), and Le Clube (club). The site really does have a little bit of everything. The media section has a range of french porn for sale as well as audio books (check out the sexy audio sample, it's very well done), and something that they're calling "Sextos" which are sexy text messages and you can order to have sent to your cell phone. The "store" section of the site sells some really cute lingerie as well as the standards (dildos, vibes, lube, bondage gear, books, DVDs). They have a 7 day return policy for unopened/unused merchandise only. The magazine section of the site is full of interesting articles (all in French, of course) on a variety of topics, including an advice column. In the club section, users can register to participate in the site's forums, ask their sexpert questions, and generally personalize their experience on the site (mark favourites, create a wishlist). All in all, Second Sexe is a good looking site and seems to be a great resource for French Speakers. - Shay

Date Reviewed: 2009-04-01
Cost: prices in EUROS Advertising Content: n/a
Category Listings: Amateur / Indie Video / DVD, Audio, BDSM Gear, Books / Zines, Corsets, Lingerie, Mainstream Video/DVD, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies

Gravvyty Whips and Braided Goods is home to whip enthusiast Dijon, who has been crafting whips in Toronto, Canada for the past nine years. The site showcases examples of his work, including bullwhips, cat's tails and quirts. At the moment there's just one item on the "in stock" page, which appears not to have been updated for several months. Gravvyty also lists prices for made-to-order whips. They say that whips are like shoes; for the best results they should be individually fit by the craftsperson. PayPal, money orders and checks are accepted for payment. Email Dijon to discuss the details of shipping charges. The site itself could definitely use some tender loving care. The basics are covered, but navigation, image quality and readability need improvement in order to make Dijon's work shine. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-02-16
Cost: free Advertising Content: nil
Category Listings: BDSM Gear

MauiKink.com is a (you guessed it!) Maui-based company specializing in erotic products handcrafted by local craftspeople whenever possible. They carry a line of custom-designed, hand-blown cupping supplies, vegan- and eco-friendly floggers, and items made from locally grown materials. I'm personally the most fascinated by a vegan paddle called The Hose which is made from clean, recycled fire hose bound in a vinyl handle. Nifty! Credit cards, e-checks and PayPal are accepted. International shipping is available with prior arrangement. MauiKink.come offers a lifetime guarantee on their products. Just keep the receipt and they'll make things right if you ever have a problem. Check out the site for more details on all their policies. - aag

Date Reviewed: 2008-11-18
Cost: free Advertising Content: nil
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies

This site has a bunch of adult toys, lingerie, and movies. You've likely seen these brands and products on a million other online stores. Whenever I run into a business like this, I look for the things that can set them apart...customer service and product descriptions. This site does offer measurements and runtimes (most of the time). They also have a size chart. That is great! They even have a FAQ, and there is customer service information on shipping and privacy. The problem? The contact info is just an online form. I really don't like that. Be sure to note the 30% restocking fee on items that can actually be returned. I wasn't impressed. The lack of contact info really tore it for me. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-08-29
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, Mainstream Video/DVD, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies

This sex toy site offers many of the usual suspects from Doc Johnson, California Exotic Novelties, Fun Factory, Kama Sutra, njoy, Fleshlight, and more. The site has a very clean and easy to navigate design, and the descriptions of the products are thorough and helpful. In addition to sex toys and safer sex supplies, they offer novelties for bachelorette/bachelor parties and some limited fetish/bondage stuff (including enema devices). There is sound on the index page, and I recommend going there just to hear the digital host say the word "dildos". Customer service, shipping, contact, and other info are all available and easy to find. A nice, clean, and well designed shop with quite a few high quality toys. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-08-21
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies

This UK shop offers a dizzying array of high quality electrostimulation devices! You'll find control boxes, remotes, insertables, electrodes, furniture, and accessories. The descriptions of the merchandise are quite thorough, and they all have pictures. One of the coolest little tools available is the ABox, a control box that can deliver audio driven electro stimulation. What does that mean? It means that you can have someone writhing along to music, or tell them that if they make a noise they will definitely be rewarded/punished with immediate feedback. I just love that! There is an electric pony device here as well, and it is a unique piece of furniture based on the classic "suspension horse" or "spanish pony". It has a steel contact bar running the length of it, and it definitely would supply a novel experience. The customer service and contact info is superb, and you can contact these folks a variety of ways. Payment is through credit card, debit card, and cheque/postal order (for UK residents only). They have a store devoted to their US clients as well, and they deliver just about anywhere that it is legal to. I think this is a great little shop! If you are interested in electrostimulation play, please make sure to do your homework about safety. It seems that the shop owners are quite open to communication with clients to determine how to best meet your needs, and they most likely can point you in the right direction for safety information as well. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-08-20
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, International Sites, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies